Charlotte Chooses Her Choice: Liberal Feminism on Sex and the City
Charlotte: The women's movement is supposed to be about
choice and if I choose to quit my job, that is my choice.
Miranda: The women's movement? Jesus Christ, I haven't even had coffee
yet.
The Trouble with Charlotte
From the beginning of
the series, Charlotte York is portrayed as the most innocent of the four
women on Sex and the City—the most innocent, the most
conservative, and the most easily embarrassed by graphic sex talk. She
is the only one who, throughout the show, expresses a serious (in her
case, very serious) desire to marry and have children. Charlotte
follows dating "rules" such as restricting intimacy on a first date so
that she will be viewed as marriage material. Every man she meets is
sized up as a potential husband. Dating is regarded as a competitive
sport and Charlotte plays to win. In "The Chicken Dance" (episode 19),
in her role as a bridesmaid she is paired up with an eligible groomsman.
Before the wedding cake is cut she imagines their future as husband and
wife, asking him loaded questions like how many children he wants to
have. In another episode, "Where There's Smoke" (episode 31), Charlotte
decides to start spending time with her married rather than single
friends in the hopes they will introduce her to marriageable men. So
eager to wed is Charlotte that one month after meeting a man who she
feels is an appropriate match, she blurts out a proposal, going against
her own rules and expectations for how such a union should begin. While
Carrie and Miranda often complain about their relationships or lack
thereof, neither they nor the brash Samantha fantasize about marriage or
motherhood and a traditional feminine life the way Charlotte does.
Traditional feminine expectations fall heavily on Charlotte's shoulders
as the other three women are mostly portrayed as happily inept at or
uninterested in cooking, cleaning, and other homemaking tasks. For
Charlotte, fulfilling traditional roles is a fantasy to be realized with
elegance.
After getting married (then separated, and then reunited with her
husband), Charlotte decides it is time to quit her job. This plays out
in season 4, in "Time and Punishment" (episode 55). As a successful
curator of an art gallery, she is giving up a career she loves and
clearly feels ambivalent about doing so. When Charlotte reveals her
intentions to her friends they appear stunned and exchange only slightly
veiled disapproving looks as Charlotte explains why she wants to stay
home. When she says that there are more meaningful things she could do
with her life, Miranda presses for details. Charlotte states:
Well, soon I'll be pregnant and that'll be huge. Plus I'm
redecorating the apartment and I always wanted to take one of those
Indian cooking classes. And sometimes I'll walk by one of those Color Me
Mine pottery places and I'll see a woman having just a lovely afternoon
glazing a bowl. That'd be a nice change.
Her friends
stare at her, wide-eyed in shock that Charlotte would give up her job in
order to do things they view as less meaningful, even trivial. After a
silence, and seemingly as a means of justifying her decision, Charlotte
adds, "And I wanted to volunteer at Trey's hospital and raise money for
the new pediatric AIDS wing."
In this exchange and for the remainder of the scene, Charlotte's
decision to enter a life of domesticity—historically the domain
and duty of women—is perceived negatively by the other women. The
very idea that Charlotte is willing to give up her career is
inconceivable to her friends. By making Charlotte the minority voice in
this situation, the writers and producers of Sex and the City
have done something interesting and novel. They allow the traditional
feminine voice to be rejected rather than rewarded, while the voices of
the career-focused workers-not-wives dominate. Throughout the history of
television, there have been few independent women characters with both
masculine and feminine characteristics, without such traits being the
subject of humor or ridicule. Most strong women characters, particularly
those who have masculine traits such as aggression, a work-focused
identity, or aversions to marriage, children, or both, have either been
connected to a man (and thus feminized as wives, mothers, or daughters)
or balanced by feminine characters who perform gender appropriately. For
example, in Bonnie Dow's analysis of the TV show Murphy Brown,
she notes how Murphy's hyperfeminine counterpart, Corky Sherwood, often
teaches Murphy how a woman should act. When Murphy demonstrates
ineptitude at cooking or parenting, Corky is there to help. In allowing
Murphy to be disciplined by Corky, and constructing Corky's way of doing
things (the feminine way) as the right way, Murphy's identity and
possibility as a feminist character is implicitly chastised and
limited.
In "Time and Punishment," the reverse scenario plays out. Charlotte's
aspirations toward domesticity are clearly viewed as the "wrong" way of
doing things or the wrong goals, and Charlotte herself is well aware of
this. She becomes increasingly defensive throughout the episode as she
justifies her decision to stop working and even lies in order to make
her choice seem less frivolous. When she interviews women to replace
her, a candidate asks how Charlotte can give up such a great job.
Initially, Charlotte replies, "Well, I'm married and we're planning on a
baby." The interviewee stares at her blankly, seemingly perplexed.
Charlotte adds her untrue justification, "Also, I'm on the board of the
Lenox Hill pediatric AIDS foundation." Then the woman nods and smiles,
looking impressed. In this incident, as when she told her friends,
Charlotte knows that if she mentions a desire to do something beyond
being a wife and future mother, in this case volunteer work for an
important social cause, then she will not be judged as negatively for
quitting her job. In this sense, Charlotte is cognizant that choosing to
stay at home is not viewed positively for upper-middle-class women.
Yet, at the same time, Charlotte seems to be aware of the importance
of the domestic role. In twenty-first-century American society, women,
like their mothers and grandmothers were, are socialized and encouraged
to view marriage and child rearing as goals they should want to achieve.
Thus, Charlotte's ambivalence toward her decision is indicative of the
conflicting demands modern women face. As psychology professor and
scholar on the subject of motherhood Michele Hoffnung writes, "There are
two sets of expectations for women. There are those made possible by
industrialization—individuality, successful accomplishment,
equality. Then there are those born of the patriarchal
tradition—the public domain belongs to men, wives and their
services belong to their husbands, and family life is the responsibility
of women" (Hoffnung 277–91). Women have been taught that they
should be successful in both of these domains, which is extremely
difficult because the demands of one conflict with the other. Women
often have to choose, as Charlotte does, between career and
family—and the writers of Sex and the City suggest that it
is OK, and maybe even preferable, for women to choose or even
prefer work. Of course, most women do not have the choice to
choose either one or the other—most do not have the
limitless financial resources that Charlotte and the other women seem to
have. Most women must work in order to support themselves and/or their
family, yet their dilemma is similar to the one Charlotte faces: Many
sacrifice "careers" for "jobs" with schedules that are compatible with
meeting a family's needs. And even for those with careers, the reality
of trying to successfully balance work and family often results in
frustration, anger, and resentment given the impossibility of "having it
all" (Clemetson et al.).
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