Katherine Hyunmi Lee, "The Ghost of Gary Cooper: Masculinity, Homosocial Bonding, and The Sopranos" (page 3 of 4)
Further complicating and informing Tony's negotiation of various
models of masculinity is the extensive homosocial bonding that his
profession requires. In fact, the psychic and professional conflicts
that drive The Sopranos' narrative often stem from homosocial
rather than heterosocial relationships. Yet rather than signify a
"wholesale collapse of masculinity," these agonistic relationships, as
Eve Sedgwick explains in her influential Between Men, can
strengthen heterosexist, patriarchal masculinity. At the same time,
Judith Halberstam notes that the fact that men experience these
anxieties and require reassurances at all demonstrates that
masculinity is simultaneously an overdetermined and incomplete identity
category rather than a "natural" state of being:
While
normative masculinity depicts itself quite simply as real masculinity,
it simultaneously exhibits some anxiety about the status of its own
realness: male masculinity as an identity seems to demand
authentication: Am I real? Is my masculinity real? The fact that male
masculinities of all kinds seem to require recognition of some kind also
has the counterintuitive effect of marking their instability and their
distance from the real. (Halberstam 353).
Male bonding
can thus facilitate identification and assuage anxieties by reifying and
authenticating unstable and unreal heterosexist masculine ideals. But
such bonding can also facilitate disidentification: When these ideals
are not authenticated or when conflicting ideals meet, the
constitutively unstable nature of masculinity and the impossibility of
total identification become visible. While The Sopranos does
little to reconfigure the reciprocal relationship between male bonding
and patriarchal structures, it does feature men who bond to mitigate
their anxieties and to ameliorate the incommensurability they feel with
masculine ideals that never actually existed, ideals that
consistently "haunt" them; in other words, they bond because they are
not really sure what constitutes a man in the first place.
This dynamic of identification and alienation catalyzed by masculine
ideals and homosocial bonding is clearly illustrated in "Boca." "Boca"
features two principal story lines, one of which is a self-contained
narrative, the other, a continuation of the first season's overall arc.
The former focuses on Meadow's soccer coach, Don Hauser, whom the
characters praise for his coaching prowess until his various treacheries
are revealed: First, he plans to leave Verbum Dei High School for a
position at the University of Rhode Island, and, more significantly, he
has been having an affair with the team's star, Ally Vandermeed. The
second story line features the increasing estrangement between Tony and
his uncle, Junior. Junior goes on vacation to Boca Raton with
long-standing mistress Bobbi Sanfillipo, who praises his oral sex
techniques. Although Junior warns her to keep their sex life a secret,
the information circulates through a network of women, and eventually to
Tony via Carmela. After Tony taunts Junior with the information, Junior
contemplates having his nephew "clipped."
As with so many episodes, the plot of "Boca" moves deftly between
Tony's professional and personal obligations, but woven among these two
story lines is a sustained examination of homosocial bonding as a means
of negotiating various configurations of masculinity. The episode
initially situates Tony, Silvio, Artie Bucco, Junior, and Coach Hauser
along a continuum of often competing constructions of masculinity
informed by various institutions, representations, and traditions. At
one end is Hauser, who seemingly personifies a late twentieth-century /
early twenty-first-century "enlightened" heterosexual white man. A tough
competitor and strategist, Hauser nevertheless coaches girls' soccer in
part because he wants to coach his daughter. He is clean-cut, preppily
attired, and owns a golden retriever to boot. At the other end are Tony
and Silvio, who are equally dedicated fathers (and much wealthier than
Hauser), but also engage in masculine excess: The former
enthusiastically cheers for Meadow, but by default—when Carmela
exclaims, "Look at you, Tony, at girls' soccer," he replies, "What do
you want from me? My only son's a couch potato"—and the latter
becomes disproportionately angry at a soccer referee ("You blow that
whistle one more time, I'm gonna stick it up your fuckin' ass!"). As the
episode proceeds, however, these distinctions become increasingly
blurred: In spite of his ideal bourgeois male veneer, Hauser is a
predator who exploits his position of authority and manipulates a
teenage girl both sexually and emotionally. Artie, Tony, and Silvio, on
the other hand, repress their initial impulse to murder Hauser and turn
him over to authorities.
The scenes that feature homosocial bonding depict a dialectical
movement through which men define and gauge their masculinities with one
another. Early in "Boca," Artie, Silvio, Tony, and Hauser celebrate at
the Bada Bing! after a soccer victory. Tony and Silvio offer the coach a
"freebie" with one of the dancers, which Hauser politely declines. This
"gift" calls to mind Sedgwick's notion of "erotic triangles," whereby
women mediate men's rivalries and attachments with one another.
Sedgwick, following Claude Lévi-Strauss and Gayle Rubin, argues that
"patriarchal heterosexuality can best be discussed in terms of one or
another form of the traffic in women: It is the use of women as
exchangeable, perhaps symbolic, property for the primary purpose of
cementing the bonds of men with men" (Sedgwick 26). Offering the dancer
as Coach Hauser's reward is Tony and Silvio's gesture of friendship,
intended to initiate Hauser into their specifically homosocial and
heterosexist circle (after all, had Hauser been a woman, would they have
invited her back to the Bing!?).
At this point in the episode, Hauser's refusal signifies his position
as an upstanding man, but after the characters find out about the affair
with Ally, the scene retrospectively establishes Hauser as an outsider
whose actions follow a different objectionable schema altogether. Rather
than implicitly endorse Tony and Silvio's methods of bonding with
Hauser, the episode asks us to engage in the same ethical debate as the
characters: Artie asks his wife, Charmaine, "You tell me—who's
worse, Tony Soprano or that child-molesting fuck?" and indeed, if
Hauser's sheepish reaction to the stripper calls attention to Tony and
Silvio's blatantly heterosexist values, then Hauser's status as a
child-molester asks us to rethink our own investment in masculine ideals
informed by a kinder, gentler, suburban bourgeois whiteness. When
examined within the context of the episode as a whole, this bonding
scene illustrates both how masculinity comes to be defined through
relations between men, and how wide the distance is between our ideals
and the real.
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