Stephanie Harzewski, "The Limits of Defamiliarization: Sex and the City as Late Heterosexuality" (page 2 of 4)
Secondly, late heterosexuality highlights the growing challenge of
separating considerations of heterosexuality in American culture from
business-based rhetoric and theoretical frameworks.[4]
This attribute is
a concern not only for heterosexuality studies but also for economic
theory.[5]
For instance, Cameron and Collins acknowledge that commercial
or market considerations have long been part of the partner-matching
process in many cultures and societies through the ages, applying recent
economic rubrics to the study and practice of partner search
(170–71). In their analysis of British matchmaking services,
relationship partners are theorized as "risky products" that require
extensive search and evaluation before a decision is made, while
matchmaking agencies serve as "risk reduction proxies" that alleviate
anxiety aroused when initially encountering a stranger (107, 123). Such
rhetoric animates much of the self-help genre, Rebecca Mead and others
argue, as women's self-help books of the 1970s and 1980s, written by
therapists, typically in an empathetic tone, have been replaced with a
model drawn from business management theory (106). In her essay
collection The Commercialization of Intimate Life (2003),
sociologist Arlie Russell Hochschild contends from a review of women's
advice books that postfeminism is a manifestation of part of the spirit
of capitalism being displaced to the intimate life: "Their activism,
their belief in working hard and aiming high, the desire to go for it,
to be saved, to win, to succeed, which the early capitalists used to
build capitalism in a rough-and-tumble marketplace, many advice books
urge women to transfer to love in a rapidly changing courtship scene"
(24). For example, John Molloy's Why Men Marry Some Women and Not
Others: The Fascinating Research That Can Land You the Man of Your
Dreams (2003) details relationship-stage schedules, offering
quantitative benchmarks to measure if a courtship is progressing on schedule.
Malloy, image consultant and New York Times
best-selling author of the Dress for Success series, purports to
offer dating dos and don'ts that insure an "up to 60 percent" increase
in the odds of marital likelihood when modeled correctly. Featured
guidelines specify that the shift from casual to monogamous dating
should occur between the 1st and 4th month and that the 22nd month of
dating marks a watershed moment as the statistical trend line for
receiving a proposal begins to drop off. In late heterosexuality,
capitalism levels heterosexuality's claim to naturalness in that
successful heterosexuality is shown to be the product of labor or a
resilient entrepreneurial esprit. (The series-inspired career guide
Sexy Jobs in the City: How to Find Your Dream Job Using the Rules of
Dating (2003), offers an inverted application of this thematic,
connecting media-sector job hunting to dating savvy.) In sum, this form
of what American sexologist Laura Kipnis has called "labor-intensive
intimacy" circulates the idea that if we work hard and network enough in
our soul-mate search, payoffs will yield, an idea touted by a self-help
lecture program that Charlotte and Carrie are featured in season 5 as
attending (Kipnis 18; "Unoriginal Sin," episode 68).[6]
Samantha's assertion that the new dating field is "all about
multitasking" and that none of the group can afford to fall into a
"one-man-at-a-time pattern" utilizes contemporary business metaphors to
promote retrograde sexual politics. Playing the field is mandatory,
according to Samantha's message, because the right men do exist but in
sorely limited quantities.[7]
Charlotte attempts to share her reading of
Marriage Incorporated: How to Apply Successful Business Strategies to
Finding a Husband, which "encourages professional women to approach
finding a mate with the same kind of dedication and organization they
bring to their careers" ("Drama Queens," episode 37). Perhaps Rachel
Greenwald was inspired by this fictional self-help title as her Find
a Husband After 35 Using What I Learned at Harvard Business School
(2003) pitches the idea that with the right marketing and product
development women can succeed at obtaining a marriage proposal even if
they are chronologically challenged. Carrie, who likens first dates to
"job interviews with cocktails" in "Luck Be an Old Lady" (episode 69),
later in "To Market, to Market" (episode 75) ponders as she types on her
Macintosh laptop the rationale behind speculative investment: "When it
comes to finance and dating I couldn't help wonder why we keep
investing." Choosing to keep her capital right where she can see
it—hanging in her closet—she assesses that "after weathering
all the ups and downs you could one day find yourself with nothing." Yet
the possibility of no return, coming up empty, is not enough to fold her
hand. Carrie, like the spirit of her book dedication, is hopeful, and,
despite Carrie's labeling Charlotte in "Drama Queens" (episode 37) as a
"professional husband hunter," the series portrays optimism and romance
alongside of market considerations and dating venture capitalism. Late
heterosexuality is then marked by a postmodern contradictoriness as to
the function of romance, traditionally opposed to monetary gain[8]:
Carrie deliberates as to whether to conclude her book on hope or
despair, and while uncertain in her own mind about love, she opts to end
her book on hope because she guesses correctly that hope sells.
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