Cristy Turner, "Fabulousness as Fetish: Queer Politics in Sex and the City" (page 2 of 4)
Stanford's Glitter
Gay men play a crucial role in Sex and the City as ambassadors
of style and stand-ins for heterosexual relationships; gay men are the
gatekeepers of all that is fabulous. Stereotypes of hyperfeminine,
creative gay men—clichéd tropes of mainstream gay
culture—create an idealized notion of glamour, the missing
component in straight women's lives. The repetitious pairing of straight
woman / gay man creates a glittering, cosmopolitan substitution for drab
visions of conventional heterosexual monogamy and girls-only singledom.
In this schema, male homosexuality is recoded as normative and decidedly
nonsexual, while female sexuality is perpetually confined within
gendered hierarchical relations of pseudo-heterosexuality. The
heterosexual male is circumvented in the relationship, creating a space
for identity and associations outside of heteronormative constraints. In
this sense, the friendship seems to hold progressive potential because
of its transgression of heterosexual authority. Yet, sexism and misogyny
can and do exist among gay men, who still enjoy certain privileges as
men in patriarchal culture. In this type of gay-straight/male-female
dyad, women are exchanged for cultural acceptance in homophobic society
while reifying heteronormativity. As Michael Warner argues, the intense
"shame" attached to homosexuality is alleviated through efforts at
assimilation into heteronormative society, often by public distancing
from actual, bodily acts of sex in favor of sanitized, sexless
subjectivity in mainstream culture (1999). Homophobic notions of immoral, seedy
gay lifestyles are de-clawed through relationships with straight
women.
On Sex and the City, Carrie's "gay husband" Stanford offers a
prime example of both the assimilationist roles of gay male characters
and the simultaneous paternalism of the relationship. "All That Glitters
. . ." (episode 62), a particularly salient episode in season 4, depicts
a burgeoning friendship between Carrie and Oliver, a handsome gay shoe
salesman. They begin secretly to "date," unbeknownst to Stanford. He
soon discovers their clandestine friendship and is visibly jealous,
accusing Carrie of cheating on him. He cries, "I was prepared to lose
you to [your fiancé] Aidan, but not this!" Carrie and Stanford's
relationship takes on a decidedly heterosexual nature as Claude
Levi-Strauss's notion of the exchange of women's bodies in kinship
systems is literally played out in the interaction between Oliver and
Stanford. The men bicker over who gets to "have" Carrie, who serves as a
bridge between them. Cultural critic Helene Shugart argues that gay
characters subtly exercise "paternalistic control of women . . . refram[ing]
gay male sexuality as an extension of heterosexual male privilege
predicated on control of female sexuality" (Shugart 80). The importance
of homosocial bonds and the exchange value of women extend across male
subjectivities, working to reify hierarchical gender relations and
subtly condone sexism. Further, Oliver and Stanford seem to argue over
who deserves to enjoy the privileges available through assimilation into
heteronormative culture. This scene not only reflects the power of
upward mobility for gay men, enabled through companionship with
heterosexual women in a homophobic society, but also replays the
straight woman's fantasy of having men fight over her. Homosexual
interactions remain secondary to heteronormative relationships. The
exchange of women delimits discourses of gay male sexuality,
overshadowing relationship development and the exchange of sex between
men. Why are these men fighting over Carrie instead of fucking each
other?
Despite the necessary presence of gay male characters to buttress the
fabulousness of straight female characters, heterosexual relationships
and heteronormativity still take center stage. Gay men are useful only
for their color swatches, fashion tips, and cheeky one-liners, as
audiences are encouraged to ignore the sexual and gender politics deeply
embedded in these social relations. Similar to screen relations in
"black buddy" films of the 1980s, which dictated that "interracial
buddies can be such only when the white buddy is in charge" (Bogle 272),
Sex and the City's gay characters exist as accessories for
increasing the cultural capital and "cool" of the female characters.
Forever relegated to secondary status, the buddy serves a dual purpose:
as a supportive presence for the protagonist, and as a cultural
spokesperson for the marginalized group within mainstream discourse.
Bogle notes that in interracial buddy films, "the black performer
function[s] as a sidekick . . . or bless[es] his white friend with a
tender loyalty and imparts some comforting spiritual insight" (272). We
can see the similarities in Stanford's loyalty to Carrie; in times of
crisis, he serves as a shoulder to cry on, stylish second opinion, or
catty relationship guru. The buddy also perpetuates a strategy of
containment, delimiting "safe" space around a non-normative character in
order to neutralize possible alienation of dominant audiences. According
to Ed Guerrero, the buddy formula attracts the "demographically broadest
possible audience while negotiating, containing, and fantastically
resolving the tangled and socially charged issue of race relations on
the screen" (240). In a similar manner, the gay sidekick, contained
within a normative role as the asexual, fabulous friend, presents a
semblance of "diversity" or progressive intent. Yet ultimately the role
works as a sanitizing and assimilationist attempt at demarcating the
boundaries of acceptable queer culture within white heteronormativity
rather than portraying the nuances of realistic queer life. Further,
like the black buddy, the gay buddy is isolated from queer culture in
the larger sense. Shugart observes that gay characters are presented as
"capable of being wholly grafted onto established heterosexual
communities and contexts; and second, that their presence is used as a
catalyst for heterosexual characters' growth and understanding" (69).
Just as well-adjusted and non-threatening interracial buddy characters
serve as mediators for larger racial tensions in society, desexualized,
fun-and-fruity gay characters stand as envoys of homosexual culture in a
heteronormative society. Through Stanford, Carrie is able to disidentify
from the mainstream marriage culture represented by her engagement to
Aidan, but, in an unexpected turn, Stanford's stealth straightness
repositions her in the same objectified and secondary gender position
she would have occupied as a wife; his gay glitter is hardly queer
gold.
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